What’s the best way to handle the revelation of an affair when one guilty spouse has come clean or been exposed, but the husband or wife of the other unfaithful party is still in the dark? My wife and a man from our church were involved with one another for over four years until I discovered their relationship three months ago. My wife has since cut off the relationship and we’ve moved to another church. We’re working through the painful aftermath, but most people are unaware of what’s been going on. That includes the other man’s wife. Is there any good reason to bring all this to light and share the situation with her? My understanding is that this is not her husband’s first affair, and it’s possible that exposing this latest round of unfaithfulness could spell doom for their marriage. I’m also wondering how this added dynamic might affect our own attempts to reconcile. What do you suggest?
