Them Before Us – The Fight for Children’s Rights

Children have the right to be loved by his or her own married biological or adoptive mother and father. But the trends of divorce, artificial reproductive technology/surrogacy, and same-sex marriage and parenting intentionally robs every child they touch of the daily love from a mother AND father. We might not like this truth but the reality is that it is them before us

CHILDREN HAVE A RIGHT TO THEIR MOTHER

AND FATHER

Katy Faust is an angry, fired up Seattle mother of four, and a pastor’s wife. She wasn’t always this way. For the most part, she was a shy woman who kept to herself. But then something set her off. Big time. She says she “straight up snapped.”

What set her off started a women-led, influential, international movement on how we view the family. Here is the story.

Katy’s mother and father divorced when she was 10 years old. It was difficult on her, even though she maintained a very close relationship with both her parents. Her dad remarried and her mother moved in with her female lover, who was not the cause of the divorce. She continued to love her mother and counted her partner as a close friend. But if Katy could have waved a magic wand, that young girl would have had her parents’ marriage mended. These new families left a deep wound in Katy’s heart. She is not alone in this.

Forward to an average day in 2012 and what made Katy really snap. It had to do with the cultural evolution of language over the make-up of family. She explains that right around the time President Obama mysteriously “evolved” on the subject of same-sex marriage – he was against it until he was for it, one evening after talking to his school-age daughter at bedtime – the nasty word “bigot” became attached to anyone who believed what humanity had always believed: Children need the love of a married mother and father.

Instead, activists were saying children only needed two parents, any two parents.

She knew this was a lie. She knew it first-hand. And she knew the lie was created for political and ideological purposes. She, her husband and their many friends in uber-liberal Seattle simultaneously held that it is a tragedy when any child loses access to their mother and father while also deeply loving their same-sex attracted family members, friends, neighbors and co-workers.

Katy was deeply offended at the cheap and baseless accusation that people who believe children need a married mom and dad are bigots. All to push an anti-child agenda.

Katy explains in her recent book, “As someone who has been working with kids for two decades, I know these claims are politically motivated lies” adding “the push to make mothers and fathers optional in order to forward a political goal sickened me.” She continues, “To imply that kids don’t care if they’ve lost a relationship with their mother or father, and to claim gender is irrelevant to parenting, is dangerous and non-sensical.”

What every child needs is shown to us in nature, through the union of a specific man and woman who become the child’s unique father and mother. That is the first principle of humanity. Nature has worked it out so that these are the two people who are most likely to do the best job raising, caring for, feeding, protecting, and educating that child into successful adulthood. Married mothers and fathers legally adopting children who do not have either is the second best option.

Every functioning society is established on this truth and ignores it at their own peril. Faust correctly asserts that a child’s right to be loved by his or her own married biological or adoptive mother and father is absolute. It is the first human right, after the right to life itself. There is no adult right to children. There is only adult responsibility to their natural or adoptive offspring.

And this is where we have gotten in trouble, thinking that if adults can create new kinds of families based on their own wishes and sexual interests, then the children who result from these “modern families” will adapt and be all right. After all, we are constantly told that “love makes a family.”

This is another lie that really set Katy Faust and those who work with her at Them Before Us off! Katy explains that every time you hear the term “modern family” celebrated, each of us should realize what that means. The modern family exists because at least one child lost access to either their mother or father because of adult desire. Faust contends, based on reams of university-based sociological, medical, and psychological data carefully catalogued in her book, these new family forms are seriously harmful to children. She hears it in the stories of such children as they have reached adulthood.