Recognizing Your Son’s Need For Respect

The Love and Respect Principle

In the first video of “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect,” Dr. Emerson offers a biblical explanation for why men and boys are wired for respect while women and girls are designed to seek love.
This is part of God’s good plan for us, but in our broken human nature, we often react in frustration or anger. As a result, we end up feeling disconnected and misunderstood.

This can certainly be true of moms and their sons. Take heart though! Dr. Eggerichs says when moms show respect to their sons, it causes boys to move toward — not away from — their mothers. 

That’s much better than stonewalling. So let’s get started.

First, watch the episode by clicking the video link below. Then, answer the discussion questions in the Go Deeper section at the bottom of the page. Finally, be sure to check out the additional resources to get the most out of this series.

Go Deeper

Get the most out of this series by following these three steps:

Step 1
Download the “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” discussion questions for additional reflection.

Step 2
Memorize and meditate on Philippians 2:3 ESV: “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” Write the verse on an index card and put it in a place you will see every day, such as on your bathroom mirror.

Step 3
There’s a lot more to understand about the Love and Respect Principle than what’s in this video series. We want to help you connect more effectively with your son and hope you will check out this book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. Order your copy today.

How Does Respect Change Your Son

Welcome to the second video of “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect.”

Today, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs describes how conflicts between moms and sons can result in the son feeling more disrespected than unloved. Why? Because as he grows older, he craves respect more than love.

Boys aren’t wrong for feeling this way. Just different The good news is that once a mom sees this need in her son, she can speak to him, even discipline him, with respectful language that affirms his character and strengthens his spirit.

So let’s get started.

Watch the second episode below by clicking the video link. Then, answer the discussion questions in the Go Deeper section at the bottom of the page. Don’t forget to check out the additional resources to maximize your learning.

Go Deeper

Get the most out of this series by following these three steps:

Step 1
Download the “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” discussion questions for additional reflection.

Step 2
Memorize and meditate on Ephesians 6:4 ESV: “Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the LORD.” Write the verse on an index card and put it in a place you will see every day, such as on your bathroom mirror.

Step 3
Read this article by Morgan Collins  – It doesn’t matter how old you are, show your mom you love her.¦

Step 4
There’s a lot more to understand about the Love and Respect Principle than what’s in this video series. We want to help you connect more effectively with your son and hope you will check out this book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. Order your copy today.

Moving Beyond Yelling, Tears, and Regret

This is the third video of “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” — the halfway mark.

Mom, you often find yourself in a tough spot. Day after day, you remind your son to do his chores and finish his homework. And yet, it feels like your words bounce off the ceiling. He doesn’t hear you.

The anger starts boiling inside you. You can feel it. You are going to have to yell to get him to listen and act. Then come his tears. And your regret. There’s got to be a better way.

Today, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs shares some examples of how moms can convey that they’re upset and that they expect more from their sons and still show them the respect they need as growing young men.

Sound good? Let’s get started.

Watch the third episode below by clicking the video link. Then, answer the discussion questions in the Go Deeper section at the bottom of the page. Don’t forget to check out the additional resources to maximize your learning.

Go Deeper

Get the most out of this series by following these three steps:

Step 1
Download the “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” discussion questions for additional reflection.

Step 2
Memorize and meditate on Proverbs 13:1 ESV: “A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.” Write the verse on an index card and put it in a place you will see every day, such as on your bathroom mirror.

Step 3
Read this article  – Raising a Gentleman.  James has an infectious smile. At 19 years old, unlike some of his more sullen peers, he is polite and gracious…

 

Step 4
There’s a lot more to understand about the Love and Respect Principle than what’s in this video series. We want to help you connect more effectively with your son and hope you will check out this book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. Order your copy today.

Learning the Vocabulary of Respect

Welcome back for the fourth installment of “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect.”

It can be difficult to show your son respect during those moments when he acts poorly or fails to take action. But these are also the times when you can make the biggest impact on him.

Today, Dr. Eggerichs shares an alternative to nagging and berating.

Instead, try calling a timeout, tell your son how highly you think of him (even in the midst of his faults), and explain why his behavior doesn’t match his character. Then, ask him to find a solution. Words that show you trust him to own his failures and correct himself will build stronger bonds in your relationship.

Let’s watch and learn from the example Dr. Eggerichs shares.

Click the video link below to view this fourth episode. Next, answer the discussion questions in the Go Deeper section at the bottom of the page. Then, be sure to check out the additional resources to get the most out of this series.

Go Deeper

Get the most out of this series by following these three steps:

Step 1
Download the “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” discussion questions for additional reflection.

Step 2
Memorize and meditate on Proverbs 13:1 ESV: “A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.” Write the verse on an index card and put it in a place you will see every day, such as on your bathroom mirror.

Step 3
Read this article  -Entering Neither World by Shona Neff

Step 4
There’s a lot more to understand about the Love and Respect Principle than what’s in this video series. We want to help you connect more effectively with your son and hope you will check out this book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. Order your copy today.

Words and the Power of Unconditional Respect

Welcome back for the fifth and final installment of “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect.”

We are familiar with unconditional love because of the example Jesus set for us during His earthly ministry. But unconditional respect is a little harder to wrap our minds around. We expect to see certain performance or behaviors before we’re ready to give respect

In today’s video, Dr. Eggerichs says that wise mothers give love and respect to their sons in equal measure, even when undeserved and unreturned. Why? Because that’s who they are as moms.

You can act with dignity and honor, even if your son doesn’t.   Even in the midst of conflict, you can model respect for your son. Yours is a high calling, Mom. Let’s begin.

Click the video link below to view the final episode. Next, answer the discussion questions in the Go Deeper section at the bottom of the page. Then, be sure to check out the additional resources to get the most out of this series.

Go Deeper

Get the most out of this series by following these three steps:

Step 1
Download the “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” discussion questions for additional reflection.

Step 2
Memorize and meditate on Proverbs 13:1 ESV: “A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.” Write the verse on an index card and put it in a place you will see every day, such as on your bathroom mirror.

Step 3
There’s a lot more to understand about the Love and Respect Principle than what’s in this video series. We want to help you connect more effectively with your son and hope you will check out this book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. Order your copy today.

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