Episode 3:
Pushed Buttons and Fight or Flight

Fight or flight responses aren’t very helpful as you walk through conflict with your spouse.

In the third episode of “Healthy Conflict in Marriage”, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley describe how lashing out or shutting down are both unhealthy and prevent couples from being able to love.

But knowing your reaction style will help you tell your spouse what you’re feeling.

After watching the video, discuss the questions provided, take some time to reflect on scripture, and explore additional resources on this topic.

 

Step 1: Watch Episode 3

Step 2:
Read and Meditate on Scripture

“…bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other;
as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”

(Colossians 3:13)

Step 3: Explore these Discussion Questions
with Your Spouse

1. What reaction do you identify with “fight or flight”?

2. How do you most typically react when your buttons are pushed?

3. What can you and your spouse do to have healthier conflict in your marriage?

Other Resources

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage: 12 Secrets for a Lifelong Romance (Book)

With practical advice and stories from their own relationship and counselling experiences, the Smalleys explore 12 biblically based strategies to help you work around roadblocks, create successful communication patterns, and build a romance that lasts a lifetime.

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