Can Prayer Really Impact My Child’s Life?
by Mandi Hart
Does prayer make a difference? Can a parent’s prayer impact a child’s life? I think so! Prayer can usher breakthrough, release protection over a child, transform their lives, and soften their hearts.
In my previous blog, I explored discipleship and wrote, “Parenting is not a project. It’s a journey. Raising children is a long-term commitment, not a one-time event”. In the journey of raising a helpless infant into an interdependent adult, prayer is vital to their growth.
Prayer is love
Years ago, I experienced the power of intercession and how it can change a child’s life. One of my friend’s daughter struggled with an eating disorder, rebelled in many ways such as lying to her parents, started smoking weed, and tried to run away from home. Her parents were at their wit’s end and wondered what they could do. One evening, four of us spent three hours interceding for their daughter’s life, for her future and her healing. We spoke the love of God over her life, declared the promises of God and engaged in warfare over specific areas.
And then they went home.
Six months later, this teenager walked into freedom and healing. Many years later, she is living in victory and full restoration – she is an overcomer! A parent’s prayer and their love changed her life (forever). Don’t for a moment, think that your prayers don’t matter.
Prayer is another aspect of discipleship.
When we pray for your children, we actively engage in a battle for their lives and future. God reveals how much he loves us (and our children). Did you know that He loves your son or daughter much more than you do? Did you know that He has good in store for your children? I’m sure you do, but we sometimes need to be reminded of that fact.
It was Amy Carmichael who penned the words, “Holy Spirit, think through me ’till your ideas are my ideas.” When we pray, not if we pray, it is with the mind of Christ that we intercede for our children. “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 2:5)
Below is a preview from my second parenting book (to be released 2020). I explore the power of prayer and write: “And when you pray, fill your thoughts and words with the following inspired ways of communion with God. Let your prayers for your son or daughter, grandchild or adopted or God-child be:
- Pray grace-filled prayers
- Let your prayers rise up to heaven with faith-filled words – Faith-filled words are words that stir your soul and spirit.
- Fire them up with hope-fuelled prayers – Hope anchors our soul.
- Be encouraged to pray out of the pit of despair and into praise.
Different prayers for different seasons
Ask God to provide for your children and pray specific, arrow-like prayers.
Arrow prayers could include:
- To know the scriptures and be made wise (2 Timothy 3:15)
- That they will grow in favor with God and man (Luke 2:52)
- To remain pure and obey God’s word (Psalm 119:9-11)
- To love one another (John 15:17)
- To not give in to fear (2 Timothy 1:7)
Bring their different developmental stages before the Lord.
From the womb, pray for protection, growth, and healthy delivery for both you and your baby. Through infancy pray as you bond with your baby. Think about those prayers you have prayed or will pray in the night watches when you feed and comfort your infant. Toddlers come with their unique challenges. Pray into those specifics. Then as they get older, intercede for friendships, growth, and relationships.
A beautiful prayer to pray is one of release as your children mature.
The story of Hannah and Samuel is one of the most charming stories in the Bible.
In the Jewish culture, a child was considered weaned after two occurrences. The first would be when Samuel stopped drinking his mother’s milk. The second being when she had finished teaching him the ‘milk’ of the Word of God. In the Middle Eastern custom of the day, the weaning from the milk of the Word of God was probably around 5 or 6 years old.
You can also pray God’s Word by finding passages that stand out to you. Write them out, memorize them and pray them. I even write my children’s names next to particular verses in my Bible, and whenever I stumble across them, I pray them. Seek the Lord and pray His will for your children, not your own will or desires.
Lastly, don’t forget to pray for yourself (and your spouse).
“True prayer is neither a mere mental exercise nor a vocal performance. It is far deeper than that – it is a spiritual transaction with the Creator of Heaven and Earth.” Charles Spurgeon