How should we handle a potentially explosive disagreement with my parents over our upcoming wedding? They’ve expressed strong objections to our serving wine and having dancing at our reception. My husband-to-be and I are financially independent, and we’d be willing to cover the wedding expenses ourselves. But this wouldn’t really solve the problem, since my mother has made it very clear that they will not attend either the wedding or the reception if dancing or alcohol are present. To be honest, these things aren’t that important to us. But I’m afraid that if we capitulate she’ll be emboldened to try to control us in other ways. What should we do?