Marriage Is a Battle . . . But Not Against Each Other

marriage-is-a-battleThe battle of the sexes probably started as far back as Adam and Eve. Actually, the battle probably ensued when Eve first asked Adam to take out the apple core. Regardless of how long the battle has been raging, you can still put me on record as saying how glad I am there are differences between the genders. My wife, Erin, has gifts that complement mine, and I adore her femininity.

However, I’m not keen on celebrating some endless joust with Sir Testosterone vying for victory over Lady Estrogen. A healthy marriage does involve conflict — fighting even — but the resolution should be to strengthen the union, not to knock a spouse off his or her mount so the hand-to-hand combat is easier next time.

Marriage is a battle, but not against your spouse. It’s a war against our sin nature. Every marriage Read more

Boundaries: The Key to Freedom

BoundarieswithTeensby Dr. John Townsend

Our sons went through all the normal training, conversations, and excitement associated with learning to drive. And while my wife and I were happy about our teens’ new level of freedom, we also found that this new autonomy provided an automatic leverage for us as parents. The car keys (and our teens’ desire to keep the privilege of using them) actually helped curb some negative behaviors in our home. In an ironic way, this symbol of freedom provided us with an effective tool to help our boys learn a critical life skill: self-control.

Adolescence is a time of exploring, challenging, thinking through values and questions about God, and longing for freedom. It’s a season

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Midlife Remarriage

by Susan Graham Mathis
Ah . . . this will be a breeze.
 Since our kids are grown and out of the house, Dale and I thought many of the issues of blending families wouldn’t affect our second marriage. We also assumed that as adults, our kids wouldn’t be affected by our decision to tie the knot. Yeah, right!

Remarrying was a huge step, especially after past failures and hurts. But we knew God had blessed us with a wonderful gift – each other. Moreover, He was giving us a chance to model God’s beautiful redemptive plan and exemplify what marriage is supposed to be.

Unexpected bumps in the road

The month following our engagement, we discovered Dale had prostate cancer. We married in July, and Dale had surgery in November. Meanwhile, my adult son unexpectedly moved into our newlywed home that September and stayed until the following May!

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Isn’t that in the Bible somewhere?

by Joanne

Pop quiz: which of these sayings are found in the Bible?

  1. Moderation in all things.
  2. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
  3. Honesty is the best policy.
  4. Better safe than sorry.
  5. Waste not, want not.
  6. You reap what you sow.
  7. God helps those who help themselves.
  8. To thine own self be true.
  9. You need to forgive yourself.
  10. Let go and let God. 

Answer: only #6. “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” (Galatians 6:7 ESV)

The rest – and many similar sayings – are often mistaken for Bible verses, probably because they sound old or Read more