Becoming a Selfless Spouse

dawn-sunset-couple-loveI was exhausted and ready for bed, but my wife, Christi, was relentless. “Honey, I really want to go out to one nice dinner with you. Please, will you get dressed up?” she pleaded.

It was already 9:30 p.m., and I had just finished working one of the longest and hardest weeks of my life at a conference away from home. I was glad to have Christi with me, but I was reluctant to agree to her request.

Though I didn’t want to go, I did it for Christi. I put her desires before my own. And the result was an unforgettable experience together. Our dinner that night was one of the most elegant meals we have ever had.

When the apostle Paul compares marriage to our relationship with Jesus (Ephesians 5:25-32), he wants us to understand that the principles that apply to Jesus’ Read more

Constructive praise


Confidence is earned, not bequeathed.

That truth is supported by a wealth of recent research about children. Scientists are discovering that when kids get overpraised — when their parents affirm successes out of all proportion to reality — the child inevitably pays for it. Consider a few everyday examples:

“Yeah, you struck out. But the pitcher cheated!” to a kid struggling to figure out which end of the bat to hold.

“You made an A on the test! You’re the smartest kid at school!” to a child who knows exactly where she stands on her class’s intelligence spectrum — and it isn’t at the top.

“You deserve to be the lead in the play!” to a child who is in awe of the acting ability of classmates who got the lead roles.

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Midlife Remarriage

by Susan Graham Mathis
Ah . . . this will be a breeze.
 Since our kids are grown and out of the house, Dale and I thought many of the issues of blending families wouldn’t affect our second marriage. We also assumed that as adults, our kids wouldn’t be affected by our decision to tie the knot. Yeah, right!

Remarrying was a huge step, especially after past failures and hurts. But we knew God had blessed us with a wonderful gift – each other. Moreover, He was giving us a chance to model God’s beautiful redemptive plan and exemplify what marriage is supposed to be.

Unexpected bumps in the road

The month following our engagement, we discovered Dale had prostate cancer. We married in July, and Dale had surgery in November. Meanwhile, my adult son unexpectedly moved into our newlywed home that September and stayed until the following May!

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Isn’t that in the Bible somewhere?

by Joanne

Pop quiz: which of these sayings are found in the Bible?

  1. Moderation in all things.
  2. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
  3. Honesty is the best policy.
  4. Better safe than sorry.
  5. Waste not, want not.
  6. You reap what you sow.
  7. God helps those who help themselves.
  8. To thine own self be true.
  9. You need to forgive yourself.
  10. Let go and let God. 

Answer: only #6. “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” (Galatians 6:7 ESV)

The rest – and many similar sayings – are often mistaken for Bible verses, probably because they sound old or Read more